Do not ruin your business by playing the comparison game! In this episode, I am discussing where comparison stems from, and how to get past those jealous feelings you have. And in return, you can start living a happier and healthier life.
Comparison is not limited to those who are entrepreneurs, and it doesn’t discriminate. In fact, it happens to adults, teenagers, and even children.
Think back years ago to when you were a kid, and maybe one of your friends had a really cool toy they got for Christmas or the latest cell phone and you just felt super lame for not having the latest and greatest of everything.
I wish I could say that comparing yourself to others especially over materialistic stuff is just a kid thing, but even as adults it happens. And in a lot of ways it only gets worse because the stuff we get jealous over is more expensive.
Research shows that over 80% of Americans are trapped in chains of debt. Which kind of blew my mind to say the least. We are willing to put ourselves in hardship, to have an outward appearance that makes others jealous of us. This will ruin your business, and also your life.
I always knew I wanted to be a stay at home mom one day. Never have I aspired to have a job that would take that dream away from me, which is part of the reason why I became a business owner. It allows me to have the freedom to stay at home with children one day.
But there have been times where I have looked around to my peers and have seen how fast they grew in their 9-5 jobs. How they “appeared” to be making a bunch of money and could buy nice things. And that’s when those comparison feelings popped in.
And this brings me to my first point.
WHY DO WE COMPARE OURSELVES?
Anytime you feel like you are comparing yourself to others and getting those wandering eyes, I want you to think “why”?
Why am I comparing myself to this person? What about their lifestyle make me feel this way? And are these REALLY my feelings? Do I ACTUALLY want what they have?
When I ask myself these questions and really think about it, usually I come to realize that I am not actually even jealous.
As someone who is growing my own company and expanding in new ways, I work a lot of hours. Some days I am working 14 hour days, and some days I randomly decide to take off to give myself a break.
I would NEVER EVER want to give up that freedom to go work some 9-5 job. It’s just not for me. Having to ask permission to take time off to go do something was never my thing. But for some people that’s okay! And there’s nothing wrong with that.
Social media allows us to stay in touch with old friends we haven’t seen in years or we can make new ones. Plus, we can follow people we admire and aspire to be more like.
But we can also follow people we get jealous of and that bring toxic habits into our lives. I bet as you are reading all of this, there is someone in particular that you are thinking of right now.
There is probably one person in particular that you KNOW you compare yourself to.
What is it about them that makes you feel bitter or jealous or unworthy? The goal here is to become clear on what it is that you are jealous of and why. And then ask yourself about your future. How do you see the next 10 years going for yourself? Relationships? Family? Career?
Get specific! I did an entire episode on goal setting and making them achievable – it’s episode 002 – you can click here to check it out!
I believe that getting really clear on what you desire for yourself takes away any sense of jealousy. When you know what you want, and why you want it, you stop looking around and start looking forward.
INSPIRATION VS. COPYING
There is a major difference between getting inspired and straight up copying someone else. Far too often I have seen not only myself, but other entrepreneurs get copied down to a T.
Whether it’s how they market their business or their branding, website, their niche, etc. Please do not try to be sneaky and copy someone else who worked so hard to build what they have.
Their logo, color scheme, graphics, words, editing, etc. is THEIRS for a reason. Be your own person.
Go on Pinterest and save things that feel like you. You can then work off of a vision board instead of what your competition is doing.
When you stop comparing yourself to others, and start to realize that you have your own special something to bring to the table, your life is going to feel so much more free.
Your business will thrive and you will finally be able to step into who God intended for you to be.
You’ve got this! I believe in you!
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I'm Sarah Elrod
I'm a Cowgirl turned serial entrepreneur.
I'm a horse trainer, western wedding photographer, business coach and ranch wife.
I help women in the western industry grow thriving businesses from rural America.
When I am not strategizing new marketing tactics, you will find me riding my horses, cuddling my cattle dog, or kissing my hot husband.
There is also a good chance I am buying way too many outfits from western boutiques.
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